Our amazing love story!
Pay attention because it is kinda a wild ride!
I have a brother Doug and in high school he had this great group of friends. Doug, Adrian, Travis, Keith, Doug (corbett, yea my husband), Clint, Dustin, and Jordan....There were tons more guys but these particular ones have stayed incredible close. When my brother Doug was a junior in high school he was killed in a car accident. This group of guys, especially Adrian, stayed close to our family and kept us informed on what was happening in their lives. They all kinda started going their own way, whether on missions, school, working or whatever it was they kept close to each other and kept my family, the Carlson's, always updated. Eventually they ALL got married, yep even Doug Corbett, my husband.
Doug and Jill Wiseman were both attending BYU in Provo. They were in the same ward and started hanging out. Doug felt "safe" with her as just a friend because she wanted to go on a mission. But the more they "hung out" the more they started liking each other. It didn't take long before they decided to get married. And although Jill's mom, Joann, thought Jill was too young, they still went ahead planning their life together. They were sealed on Nov. 22 1996. They had planned on waiting a year to start a family but Heavenly Father obviously had something else in mind. They followed the promptings to get pregnant and months later they were pregnant with a baby girl who was due in December. Life was looking perfect until about September when Jill started having some vision problems, headaches, and couldn't balance well. One night, in October they were eating a malt and Jill's malt had kinda fallen in her face. Ya know when you are trying to get the last of the malt out of your cup and you have to hit the bottom of your glass and a huge glob of ice cream comes screaming down the glass and it falls on your face before you can tilt your glass back? Well this is what happened. Doug noticed that there was ice cream on her face and mentioned it to her. She couldn't feel a thing. He realized that her face was numb and he knew that wasn't good. They went to the neurologist and she sent her to get a MRI @ the hospital and then they found a brain tumor. Jill at the time was 31 weeks pregnant. After being in the hospital a few days and keeping a close eye on the baby they decided to they needed to take her. Samantha Jill Corbett was born Oct. 14, 1997 in perfect health. Jill remained in the hospital for 2 more months and they kept Sam also in there not because she needed to be but the hospital said they wanted to keep the family together. When Jill got out of the hospital, Doug, Jill, and Sam went to live in Layton Ut. with her parents, the Wiseman's, until she passed away in June. Leaving Doug a single dad, he went to his school counselor and asked how he could graduate ASAP! He continued to commute from Layton to Provo almost everyday to get his diploma. And that he did. He graduated from BYU with a degree in manufacturing engineering.
2 years later, back to the group of high school friends..., Our friend Adrian, who was married to Rachel and has 2 darling boys, was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Adrian stayed incredibly close to our family through the years and so this news, for everyone, was very difficult. He was absolutely amazing and his faith was admirable. At the time I was 23 and was always telling him to "find me a man!" He spent so much time with doctors and nurses I would always tell him, "Adrian, there has to be a single guy SOMEWHERE!" He always told me not worry about it he would find me a man! Knowing he didn't have much longer to live he started drilling me a little. I remember him looking me dead in the eye and asking me, "Baber, (that is my nickname) if you died tomorrow would you be ready to meet our Savior." This was one of those moments that changed my life forever. I thought about that, especially under the circumstances, for weeks, months and now 10 years later. Well, I was blessed to be able to help Rachel and boys and Adrian his last few weeks of his mortal life. It was the most spiritual experiences of my life and it is a huge part of who I am today. Adrian met his Savior on a beautiful Easter morning in April of 2000. I will never forget what his father-in-law said, "The cancer died but Adrian lives on forever!" He was right on!
For the funeral ALL the friends came. We were all at the luncheon together and Doug Corbett, who I hadn't seen in years, asked if he could sit by me. I was sitting at the table with Rachel and some other friends. My family, who was sitting kiddy-corner to us, looked over and was overcome with emotion thinking that "ME & DOUG" were meant to be...... YES, as crazy as it sounds it was true. After the funeral all the friends got together to hang out for a while before everyone had to split there different ways. While we were there they started giving Doug and I a hard time. They were saying things like, "why don't you 2 just get married?" And to that Doug said, "well I would have to buy a new suit!" and I replied, "I would have to buy a new dress!" Since that moment we have called each other "dress girl" and "suit guy". I remember Rachel telling me, "if Adrian had to die just so he could find you a guy, referring to Doug, I will be SO upset!" WE laughed pretty hard about that!
About a week after Adrian's funeral Doug came up for my birthday and we ate dinner with my family. Doug went back to Utah to work and I stayed here in Idaho going to school and working. One night, days later, we were having a very casual conversation on the phone. Then Doug asks, "hey what are you doing on July 28th?' I said, "nothing, why?" He then asked, "Do you want to get married?" I answered, "yea sure!" (time line---beginning of May of 2000) I explained that I was leaving to go to Europe with a friend for 5 weeks and would be back in the middle of June. We kinda laughed for a minute, not thinking the other was very serious, and then we agreed that we really would need to get that "new suit" and "new dress".... 5 weeks later, when I returned, the wedding plans were made! For those of you who ask....."Did you 2 date?" Well kinda. We saw each other a few times on the weekends.
My dad and Doug negotiated the price of his daughter while I was out of the country. They agreed on, for those who have seen 'Jonny Lingo', 40 cows and 1 bull! The morning of our wedding we walked out in the front yard and there were 40 large cut out cows and 1 huge bull! Doug payed up!
I am so blessed to have 2 amazing sets of in-laws. We have 3 families that we love dearly. We feel no differently towards one than we do the other....THEY ARE ALL OUR FAMILY! I truly feel like the luckiest girl in the world to have my family, the Carlson's, the Corbett's and the Wiseman's.
Our life together has been blissful. The first morning we spent in our new little apartment Sammy woke up, ran out of her room and said, "I love my new mom!" It felt so natural and just what I had prepared for my entire life. It was a blessing to have a family and it was everything I ever dreamed of!
We have been married for 10 years and it has been amazing. Almost perfect! I say almost because there have definitely been trials. But every trial we have had we have come out stronger! We consider ourselves incredibly blessed. Even given the latest news on Doug's health. It will only make us stronger!